Most relationship research has focused on overall relationship satisfaction, which is an area of clear importance. However, research may not look in depth at the results of sex and whether there are specific ways to develop better sex. Although sexual satisfaction and healthy communication helps to increase relationship satisfaction, sexual communication can be very different from social communication and it can be wrong. thinking that just working to improve the quality of communication in general will improve sexual communication.
With few exceptions, couples therapy focuses on social issues and may leave sexual issues out of the question. For example, according to one study, although the majority of medical/mental health professionals emphasized the importance of talking about sex in therapy, many said that they were adequately trained and unlikely to talk to patients about sex.
Another study found that even licensed marriage and family therapists are uncomfortable and unwilling to address sexual problems. Relationship professionals may think that if general communication and relationship satisfaction improves, then sexual communication and sexual satisfaction will follow. However, this has not been proven. Before we dive into the analysis of sexual satisfaction, here are the main points to be made:
5 key factors that increase sexual satisfaction
1. To get more orgasms, talk about sex in detail.
Men report that they almost always have an orgasm, but they still report that they are sexually satisfied if they discuss the details of sex with their partners. Women report that they don’t orgasm as much as they would like, but they often have orgasms during sex when the conversation involves talking about sexual content.
2. Talk about sex often—and often.
Talk about sex outside of the room, as a part of regular work and the general quality of your relationship. Talk about what you do during sex and what that means, what everyone wants, what you like, what you don’t like, the best time to have sex, the time when you don’t want sex, your fantasy, good things, bad things, and more.
Talking about the relationship without talking about sex may improve relationship satisfaction, but it is not associated with sexual satisfaction per se.
3. Talking about sex work in a manner for partners.
A great satisfaction of satisfied communications.
4. Be reasonable when talking about sex.
An honest, strong way of talking about sex is associated with greater sexual satisfaction.
5. Sexual communication is associated with greater overall relationship satisfaction.
Working on these factors to improve sexual satisfaction will likely increase your overall relationship satisfaction. However, working on the relationship as a whole without specifically addressing sexual satisfaction will not improve your life.